What should it be about?? Kale, yoga, Omega 3’s? Nahhh. Let’s talk about happiness.
Happiness is one of those things that people always seem to be striving for.
“I’m not sure what I want to do with my life, I just want to be HAPPY!”…KK, please, be more vague.
If I’ve learned anything from the amazing men in my life (#Buddha, #Jesus, #Ghandi) it’s that happiness is not something to be attained-it just is. You just have to let yourself be happy. Here. Now. You might be like, “BERN how on earth can I be happy when I accidentally shaved off my eyebrows yesterday??” Relax, they will grow back.
Really though, happiness is all about accepting your life as it is right now. Sure, we all have hopes and dreams. You want that promotion, you want to lose ten pounds, you want a boyfriend. These are all fine and well- you obviously need some goals in your life. But don’t get so attached to your desires that they instead make you upset because you don’t have them yet. Just focus on what you do have and create small steps to where you want to be. If that doesn’t work because you’re all melodramatic and shit, practice these next steps to feel a little happier right now.
5 Tips to Cultivating Happiness:
1. Practice Gratitude
Take out a piece of paper and write down ten things you are thankful for. Your mom, your cat, the freckle on your face, WHATEVER. Just write it down and recognize how truly lucky you are in so many aspects of your life. Chances are you’ll have a lot more then ten.
If you want to take this to the next level, actually thank someone for all they’ve done for you, whether in person or on paper…This tends to feel really weird and uncomfortable but suck it up, you’ll feel great after.
I knew she was gonna say that.
It’s true though, endorphins up the wazoo. It doesn’t even have to be anything difficult, especially if you’re just getting into it. Literally just go for a walk around your block or like roll around naked on your floor.
I will say though, if you’ve been exercising for a while now, trying pushing yourself a little harder. Take that boot camp class where you know there’s a 70% chance you die. Start using weights if all you do is cardio. Switch it up.
3. Do something
By “do” something I don’t mean sit on the couch and binge watch Real Housewives (unless it’s a Sunday and you’re hungover). What I mean is stop texting your friends and actually meet up with them. Go to the new restaurant you keep saying you’re going to try. Take an art class or go bowling. Blast music and dance, cook dinner, adopt a kid. Whatever, just do something.
4. Give Back
I know that this can be a hard one because a lot of us are really busy, but if you have the time, volunteering is an awesome way to boost your mood. Brainstorm any causes that really resonate with you or have affected you directly and google different ways you can help out. There are always so many different walks and events going on, so even if you can only do something a few times a year, do it!
5. Make a List of How Effing Awesome You Are
Nothing will cheer you up more than by thinking about how funny, talented and kind of pretty you are. It’s been proven that by making a list of all your great qualities, you will instantly feel better. Humans are negative by nature so we need to actively train our minds to be more positive. By focusing on all the good things about ourselves, those aspects of our personality are more likely to shine through.Now go hand that list to your roommate to remind her how damn lucky she is to live with you.
I’m sure there are a million more ways to make yourself feel happy right now, but I don’t feel like writing anymore. So, what else do you guys do to feel happy? And who wants to try some of these things out with me?? #letsadopt